I've been thinking a lot lately about how your life can just happen to you. And, if you're not careful you can wake up one day wondering how you ended up there. But then, there are times when we take the bull by the horns and throw caution to the wind (and all the other cliches that you can think of), even if we know we might fail. Anyway, I had a wonderful reminder of that strength and courage that we can summon this week when I spoke to the cabaret performer Rudy Jeevanjee. Rudy found, through the Cocoa Butter Club, (which hosted regular nights at lost London space Her Upstairs), his people AND his purpose. What more could you ask for? Follow me Instagram: www.instagram.com/lostspacespod Facebook: www.facebook.com/lostspacespod TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lostspacespod Support me Buy Me A Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/lostspacespod Follow my guest Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rudyjeevanjee/ Takeaways Realising one's sexuality can happen at a young age, and it is important to create a safe and accepting environment for young people to explore their identities. Early sexual experiences can shape one's understanding of their sexuality and impact their journey to find inner peace. Navigating relationships and the gay scene can be challenging, and it is important to find spaces and connections that feel genuine and supportive. The clubbing scene can provide a sense of belonging and freedom for LGBTQ+ individuals, but it may also lack inclusivity and representation. Performing can be a transformative experience that allows individuals to express different aspects of their identity and gain confidence. Embrace and celebrate all parts of yourself, even if it means stepping out of your comfort zone. The queer scene has evolved and changed over time, and individuals may have different experiences and preferences within it.