We explore the concept of "DINKS" - Dual Income No Kids - and the idea of forgoing having kids in favor of living a life of potential luxury and adventure. Listen in as we discuss the challenges many gay couples face when considering starting a family and how a lack of education and resources may influence their decision. We also look at the adoption and surrogacy process for LGBTQ+ families, discussing the difficulties and legal challenges that may arise. Hear our thoughts on balancing the DINKS lifestyle with parenthood and how we'll try to navigate it. Lastly, we share some valuable resources for those considering starting a family, like Gays with Kids and Men Having Babies. Don't miss our insights on the importance of connecting with other LGBT parents for education and support. Key Highlights: Dinks or Dads: Discussing the luxuries of a dual income lifestyle without kids versus the challenges and joys of parenthood. Surrogacy and Adoption: Exploring the financial, legal, and emotional aspects of starting a family as an LGBTQ+ couple. Navigating Surrogacy Laws and Parentage: Understanding the surrogacy process, legal requirements, and the importance of research and support. Resources for Starting a Family: Highlighting useful resources like Gays with Kids and Men Having Babies, and the importance of financial aid and community support. Links: Men Having Babies Gays with Kids Gay & Lesbian Fertility Options at SDFC ___ SUPPORT THE SHOW ON PATREON Join our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here! What’s included: Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenes Community chats with Daniel and Garet Exclusive voting power on episode topics/guests Daniel and Garet's personal journal updates ___ SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW: Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening! Daniel and Garet Co-Hosts of Modern Gays https://www.moderngays.co