This week, I chat with Pepper Kat about Western society's difficulty in embracing physicality and sexuality. Pepper is an adult entertainer and podcaster who founded Design Your Dreamgirl to provide a space for all people to explore their desires with no judgment. Pepper and I discuss the spectrum of sexual fantasy, how shaming intimacy is the worst form of control, and why Sigmund Freud should probably be retired. REFERENCES: Pepper Kat’s website: https://www.pepperkat.com/ Spicy Spectrum Podcast: https://www.pepperkat.com/heartfelt-perspectives Follow Pepper on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_pepper_kat_ Follow Pepper on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/pepperkat.bsky.social Follow Pepper on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/peppertheblackkat/ Follow Pepper on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091550276924 Follow Pepper on X: https://x.com/BlackKatPepper (00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:32) - Introducing Pepper Kat (02:06) - From news producer to Design Your Dream Girl (04:04) - Acknowledging desires reduces assault (09:12) - Historical biases drive current views on sex (13:48) - The spectrum of desire (18:23) - Sex work keeps the world sane (21:53) - Embrace your physicality (26:59) - Voice as a method of affirmation (29:16) - Intimacy takes many forms (32:22) - Being confident neough not to lie to yourself (36:45) - Why not just change social norms? (41:29) - And it all comes down to control (48:02) - Who can call Pepper Kat? (50:47) - How to find Pepper Kat on the internet (52:27) - Spicy Spectrum Podcast (54:04) - Show closing (55:48) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★